"Mistakes were made" or "Mistakes were made all around" are cover-ups that politicians use. These cover-ups also have great potential in divorce, raising children, and in any other dispute where one party wants to cover up misdeeds by spreading the blame around.
Don't buy it! You are responsible for your own actions. Other people are responsible for their own actions. End of story. Even children, if they are lucky, have parents who teach them that they are responsible for their own actions.
Children, and many adults, however, do not know where their own responsibility ends and another person's responsiblity begins. We adults have to figure this out for ourselves and teach children how to tell the difference.
The spouse who has an affair says I wouldn't have done it if s/he had not been so cold. Cold or not, the wandering spouse is dishonest is s/he does not look at her or his own motives and actions. Rule 1 in marriage: do not inventory the deficits of your spouse. Inventory your own. Your spouse will do the same.
People take advantage of other people's vulnerabilities all the time. What wandering spouse wouldn't want to get off the hot seat? Pointing the finger at someone else works when the target of the finger feels guilty.
Why do people cover up? Fear of exposure. Fear of shame. Fear that others will think less of them. Fear of consequences if misdeeds come to light.
Consequences can be harsh if wrong-doers tell the truth. Floyd Landis's manager was fired after he admitted that he had made a threatening phone call to Greg LeMond to intimidate LeMond into not testifying at Landis's doping hearing.
What might the consequences have been if the manager had gotten away with the intimidation?
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